wear what feels good

As we get older, the hope is that we have developed our own style and know what suits us. The problem is that many people don’t know how to change their clothing choices to suit their changing bodies and faces, with the result that women over 50 often look either like they are wearing ‘old lady’ clothes or conversely like they have dressed out of their daughter’s wardrobe. Shopping with my 20 something daughter earlier this year, I took a pair of (slightly) ripped jeans to the change room and tried them on. She thought they looked great and I must say from the waist down, not too bad. But not when I looked up. Oh no! The jeans were ripped and my face has got to the stage that it too looks ripped – the face and the jeans just didn’t work together.

Alexandra Shulman, editor of  British Vogue, is quoted in the Daily Mail UK  a few years ago as giving her style rules. They include  know your shape, keep it comfortable and be kind to yourself. A great article from a woman who’s raison d’etre is style and fashion.


There is no reason why you can’t wear current fashion that fits into your style – I sure do. I spent the last two summers in printed soft pants and dressed up or down depending on the top I wore and either heels or flats to make the outfits appropriate.  I particularly wear a lot of black (maybe too often, but it’s my comfort zone) and a printed pant let’s me wear pattern but not so that I feel it overwhelms me.

print pant

The only thing is, find the version that suits you. I am quite short (5’4″ when I stand up straight), so as much as the wide leg versions often have the best prints, they are best left to the tall. I pick the ones that have a leg that tapers to the bottom.  I looked like and felt like my best self and was confident and comfortable and looked good. Actually, I will find a way to keep wearing that trend all winter; it works for me.

Dress to make yourself feel good but never leave the house without a final look in the mirror. I sometimes see someone wearing something that really doesn’t work and think first that they didn’t look in the mirror and secondly that I am lucky to have people who love me and are quick to offer an opinion. While I don’t dress for my husband or my children, if they comment, it does make me look twice and sometimes, they are right and sometimes I ignore them.


About lindyjoffeomassi

As long as I can remember, I have known that bread makes you fat. The thing is, I love to eat bread. All bread. Of course, I don’t want to be fat. In fact, I want to be skinny, endlessly stylish, funny, welcome people to my house as an effortless hostess, take no nonsense from anyone, be an inspiring mother and wife - but these things only happen once in a while for a brief moment (except for the skinny thing - it never happens!). You only live once. So true and so important. I know I have to make every moment count and live it the best way I know how. I want to live with a sense of discovery, a sense of making moments count. There is so much I like. Food. Cooking delicious food for those we love. A great little bakery with fragrant bread. Beautiful objects, be they pieces that make a home yours or just the right sweater that makes you feel cozy. A great moment with people that make you happy. A book that you can't put down. All of these things encompass the best things in my world, be it only a moment. I want to appreciate each step, so if I write about my steps, maybe you can look at your steps differently. So many women I talk to have the same issues I do, so imagine how many more there are out there who would relate to me. We all want to live well, love a lot, do good and share with others. I hope you enjoy reading breadmakesyoufat .com. If you feel the urge to share your moment with me, I would love that!
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